DATE THE GIRL WHO WAITS

DATE THE GIRL WHO WAITS

Date the girl who waits. She knows good things are worth waiting for. Find her smiling to herself as she browses through books in an indie book store.  Find her laughing heartily in a group of friends at a cafe in town.

The girl who waits is one moment the sweet girl next door, and the next moment, the life of a party.

It’s easy to spot the girl who waits. Oblivious to her surroundings, she charms those around her with her confidence and her bubbly personality. You know you’ve found the girl who waits when you see a girl happy just being herself. When you see her, start a conversation and make her laugh. You can be certain it’s her if she infects you with joy without even trying.

The girl who waits doesn’t worry or envy when she sees her friends happily in love. Because deep down she knows it’s a matter of time before she gets her turn.

She’s confident enough to not to settle with just anyone, because the girl who waits is the girl who loves not when she’s lonely. The girl who waits, understands the difference between being alone and being lonely.

Ask her out on a date. Know she’ll refuse because chances are, she’s got plans of her own. But don’t stop trying, because when she finally opens up to you, you will realize that the wait was worth the while.

Date the girl who waits. She’ll never take you for granted. After months or even years of holding out for the right guy, appreciation and commitment come naturally. She won’t back out of the relationship after years of dating, citing reasons of uncertainty of whether you’re the one, because you know she has done everything she has needed to as a singleton and she has met sufficient guys to know you’re the one she wants to be with. She’ll be thankful for every moment with you because the activities she once had to do alone, she now has you as company.

Take her out on a date. You’ll experience appreciation and desire when she naturally reaches out for your hand. Date the girl who waits, because when she finally entrusts you with her heart, you know she’s true to you.

Fall in love with the girl who waits. She has gone through sufficient heartbreaks to know how to love. She understands the delicate balance of personal space and couple time. Having been a swinging bachelorette, you can be certain that she has a life of her own. She won’t be clingy and neither will she stop you from hanging with the boys. She’ll be the best friend who taunts you to make your soccer watching experience fun but she’ll also be the sweet girl who’ll cuddle you at home on a rainy day.

The girl who waits would have a life of her own. She’ll tell you about her backpack adventures. She’ll take you to her favorite hideouts. She’ll strum you a song on her guitar and watch her favorite movies snuggling up with you. She’ll take you to meet her friends. She’ll hold your hand and take you on new escapades.

Date the girl who waits, because she is the girl who knows what she’s looking for. If she chooses to be with you, you can be definite it wasn’t because of convenience or loneliness.  Treasure the girl who waits, because she, who doesn’t settle despite it all, is the girl who will love you for you.

Love the girl who waits. She’s confident and happy by herself, but chooses to let you in despite knowing you could very well hurt her. If she forsakes her freedom for you, keep her. If she can love you without any baggage from her previous heartbreaks and failed relationships, don’t just love her back.  Love her, and even more.

Maybe you’ve met her, maybe you haven’t. But when you finally do, don’t let her go.

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Founder and Editor of Jcheongwrites, she writes about love and life.

47 Comments

  • Reply June 18, 2014

    Gavin Loh

    Love this article!

  • Reply June 21, 2014

    NJ

    Date the Guy Who Waits:

    He who waits not always a Nerd nor a Techie type of guy. He who waits not a type of guy that always unwanted by a girl. He who waits may have few girls that like him, but he just wait till the right one come-up and shine among the rest. He who waits not always a type of guy that always lonely and no friends at all. In his daily life, while waiting for his Ms Right, he may have gone chill out with his friends regularly, share their stories in life at some random cafe, does few random awesome things like charity or social activities, or perhaps party ocasionally with his friends just for fun.

    However, he is not the type that when he know a girl, ask for her number and then chase her directly to win her heart. He will wait till the time is right and he is comfortable with. He who waits perhaps already have few plans in his life. he may already planned them carefully, starting his own career, his dream house, his dream wedding till his dream honeymoon. He just waits until he found his Ms Right that can sync with his plans. Maybe not sync 100% like doing phone back-up, at least few similarities are there.

    It also doesn’t mean that he doesn’t try to hang out and meet some girls. He who waits maybe already gone through few dating session or few hang out with extended friends. He who waits doesn’t mean that he can’t made up his decision to get a girl to be his partner, or doesn’t mean that he is too picky. He who waits will consider his feeling towards the girl that he met on whether it’s the right one or not. He who waits will plan everything nicely and doesn’t afraid to try meet new girl. If he thinks not suitable for him, then he will just consider the girl to be in the friend quadrant.

    I believe at the right time, everyone will feel certain chemical reactions in their mind and body if they think they already found the right one. Maybe, the feeling can be described like when Mr. Edison found the light bulb or when Mr. Einstein found the great gravitational theory. It will be like Eureka!!!.

    He who waits will think simply and enjoy the presence of his family, close friends, colleagues, and some random person that he met in certain occasion.

    • Reply July 7, 2014

      F

      Stop ruining the English language…

    • Reply July 9, 2014

      Elaidomino

      Nice Post from a guy’s perspective.

      • Reply July 10, 2014

        J Cheong

        thanks Elaidomnio for the kind words, =) glad you enjoyed the post!

  • Reply June 26, 2014

    Anna Nguyen

    Hi J~ It’s me, Anna. I’ve mailed to you but it seemed like you haven’t checked it out yet. So I am here to asking for your permission again~ I just wonder whether you could give me permission to translate some of your articles into Vietnamese. I am really in love with them that I want to spread it to our community, I want to translate it so that people who don’t know English can know about your precious writings <3 So could you please allow me to do so?

    Btw, how was your trip in Hanoi after coming back from Halong bay? Did you enjoy our Hanoi?

    Looking forward to your reply.

    Best regards,
    Anna Nguyen

    • Reply June 30, 2014

      J Cheong

      Hi Anna,

      So sorry but my articles are not to be translated to other languages. These articles are personal to me and I’d like to leave them as is. You can definitely hit the “Share” button below and share it with your Viet friends though 😉

  • Reply June 30, 2014

    manjunatha

    like all

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Thanks Manjunatha, do share the articles with your friends and loved ones. See you around here soon!

  • Reply July 7, 2014

    Matt

    Hey J, interesting post

    From a guy’s perspective, I found it an interesting read. I do need to ask about one main statement however:

    “Ask her out on a date. Know she’ll refuse because chances are, she’s got plans of her own. But don’t stop trying, because when she finally opens up to you, you will realize that the wait was worth the while.”

    The rest of the article assumes she will stop waiting.

    What is the girl who waits waiting for?

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Hey Matt, I guess the point is. Date the girl who gets into a relationship because she loves you, and not because she needs to settle. =) Hope this clarifies, & good luck!

  • Reply July 8, 2014

    Mary

    Isn’t this so judgmental of girls that are looking for online dating?

    Being one, there is nothing about not being able to wait. It’s more about I think I am more able to find the right people to connect to. I met my boyfriend on OkCupid, and it’s turned into such a strong relationship and connection between us.

    Online dating doesn’t mean not being able to wait to meet the ‘right person’. It’s about maximising the chances of actually finding the right person, thank you very much.

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Hi Mary, sorry if you got offended by that line. I definitely didn’t mean it that way =) In fact, Mary (see above) found her true love through online dating. & just like how i wished them both everlasting happiness, I too wish the both of you all the best.

  • Reply July 8, 2014

    Julyn

    I love this article! I just hope that every man could read this. I love the Eureka part! Haha.. be blessed! 🙂

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Aww, thanks Julyn! Hope to see you around here in future! & do remember to share the articles you love, spread the joy =)

  • Reply July 9, 2014

    Ruje

    while reading this my mind keeps thinking of her and keep smiling 🙂

  • Reply July 9, 2014

    maria

    This is a good article but ouch! I found my guy through meow(app same like wechat or tinder). We are a work in progress, I have never been in a relationship and had been very picky when it comes to dating men. I was never the type to engage in a conversation where men will just suddenly approach and be friendly, I find it awkward. Whereas with texting before meeting, I admit it does have its pros and cons as well, but for me, when a guy can engage me with a conversation and also if I can make him interested with what I am saying even before we meet then that’s really a great thing. Just because I used this kind of app doesnt mean I didnt wait and a lot of girls too. But hey, again, I still like your article! =)

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Thanks Maria for your kind words =) Treasure your man, because true love stories like yours are a gem. I wish the both of you everlasting happiness!

  • Reply July 9, 2014

    Joanna

    Exactly! Love this article!

  • Reply July 9, 2014

    Carlo Aap

    Well said.

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Thanks Carlo for your kind words 😉

  • Reply July 9, 2014

    Dems

    Saw this from a friend’s Facebook wall then “Just The Way You Are” (piano cover) started playing on my Spotify <3

    I just had to say you write from the heart and I love that! Also you have similar site theme with my other favorite blogger, Amy Chan of justmytype.ca 🙂

    • Reply July 10, 2014

      J Cheong

      Thanks Dems, I feel so touched now =) Keep sharing and reading yup! Hope to continue seeing you around here.

      • Reply July 24, 2014

        Dems

        Liked your Facebook page so I can be updated 🙂

  • Reply July 10, 2014

    Sam Tan

    Sweet write-out; came across your blog randomly and do agreed with the following:

    “Ask her out a date. Know she will refuse because chances are, she’ve got plan of her own. but dont stop trying, because when she finally opens up to you, you will realize that the wait was worth the while”

    Keep up the good work =)

  • Reply July 11, 2014

    Karell

    My friend shared me this article telling me it reminds her of me… I must say, I feel as if I’m reading my life story… Hahaha! This is so me!

  • Reply July 11, 2014

    Neil N. Wonderland

    Permission to Reblog this ma’am? ♥♥

  • Reply July 12, 2014

    Anonymous

    I fell in love with this post. ♥

  • Reply July 12, 2014

    page93

    This is inspiring! Love the girl who waits… 🙂

  • Reply July 12, 2014

    Madelle

    Very well said!

  • Reply July 13, 2014

    DON

    That’s a good way to put it. 🙂

  • Reply July 13, 2014

    dianee

    very well written…keep it up!! you are blessed! =)

  • Reply July 14, 2014

    Khat

    OMG!! I LOVED IT!! Keep it up, J! 🙂

  • Reply July 14, 2014

    chiela angeles

    This is so relatable!! And I love it. So much!! 🙂

  • Reply July 14, 2014

    Phoebe

    You can find girls everywhere really, but sometimes you can find that one person in places you least expects. I get the point of this whole article but hopefully let’s not put a limitation on where guys could find their potential partneers, allow people to open their minds and explore new places. I’m in a happy relationship with a guy I met on Okcupid and we’re currently planning our future together, taking all the time in the world to do everything we want. cheers!

  • Reply July 15, 2014

    nhessy

    u nailed it girl!

  • Reply July 16, 2014

    I

    But what about girls with baggage? They don’t deserve love?

  • Reply July 17, 2014

    Francis Batac

    I can’t wait to find her and do exactly all this.

  • Reply July 17, 2014

    Anonymous

    I f0und her already 5 yrz ag0. D gurl wh0 waits is trustw0rthy. 🙂

  • Reply July 19, 2014

    Krystel

    <3

  • Reply October 28, 2014

    Red

    Nice article. Very inspiring anyway.

  • Reply December 29, 2014

    Malia

    Nice post. please keep going. you are an inspiration.

    • Reply February 25, 2015

      J Cheong

      Thanks Malia, feel free to share the article with your friends. Hopefully that will inspire them as well. Hope to see you around here 😉

  • Reply February 4, 2015

    David T

    You mean date the girl who’s being a hard to get?

    Sure, when other girls happilly give you a chance for a date (not a relationship, just a date to see where things going), why in the world would I choose to ask 3-4 times for a girl who clearly doesn’t appreciate a man asking her for a date.

    Just because she says no 3 times doesn’t make her prettier nor nicer, it’s just means that she’s either not interested in you, or simply playing hard to get

    And as they say, don’t play hard to get with a man who’s hard to get.

    • Reply February 25, 2015

      J Cheong

      The article isn’t about dating the girl who plays hard to get, but rather dating a girl who waits out for what she believes in. No one should play hard to get, male or female. But either ways, thanks for commenting! 😉

  • Reply October 1, 2015

    Fadilah

    Well said J! I love all your articles!

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